Monday, November 29, 2010

Frustration Nation

I'm angry. I'm angry about the state of the society in which girls have to grow up today. I'm angry that despite our most valiant efforts, we continue to be bombarded and negatively affected by the women we see in the media. You can say it, how overdone and almost cliche this topic has become. But for myself, I must rage against the unfair expectations that we have developed for ourselves, largely due to the unattainable body types we see on every magazine cover, in every editorial, every billboard, commercial, and music video. It isn't fair. And it isn't right.
I'm angry that no matter how hard I try, I envy these girls. I envy the simplicity of their silhouettes, I envy their spotless faces and I envy the recognition they receive for their win in the genetic lottery. I'm tired of fighting feelings of insignificance and ugliness every time I read a magazine, or watch a show on television.
I'm angry that an industry that is so insanely plastic and so transparently shallow can have the power to dismantle my self esteem, when I've worked for so long and so diligently to learn how to love me for me, without the condition of looking a certain way.
I'm angry. I'm so tired of the hypocrisy that flows through the veins of a society that preaches self esteem while really bringing us down with impossible standards of perfection that can only be achieved by means of photo shop or starvation.
It's wrong. Really wrong. But let's get real here, is this honestly going to change? Or is it something we need to learn to live with, this feeling of inadequacy and mediocrity when comparing ourselves to women whose rail thin exteriors have gained them countless accolades and turned them into goddesses whom we worship almost religiously?
It's really sick when you think about it.
And something has to change.
Or else we will be swallowed up by starvation, diet pills, and plastic surgery.
We deserve to love ourselves, we deserve to look in the mirror and feel beautiful, not because we are what a magazine says we should be, but because we are proud of who we are and what we stand for and because gosh darn it, we think we look pretty damn hot thank you very much!
Easier said than done right?
But we need to work on this, and maybe if we all work together, we won't have to stand in front of a mirror scrutinizing our bellies, our cellulite (which is NORMAL) and the pimples that pop up monthly (also NORMAL!).
Alright, though I could go on forever, I'll stop here and let you process all of this until next time.
Love you all, and I hope you love yourselves too.
Until next time,
Steph

2 comments:

  1. I love this so much and couldn't agree more! :) I'm not quite sure what comes next, but hopefully the media can feel pressure to stop presenting these fake images to us in efforts to promote something healthier and more realistic. I know some modeling agencies are now favoring "plus size" models (some of which are actually just an average weight) for their campaigns as a way to appeal to more women.
    As for what we can do, I think the idea of joining together to love ourselves is likely the best option. There is a sense of comfort in knowing that everyone who looks in the mirror identifies some flaws. This imperfection is what connects us. However, what is most important is looking past that imperfection and deciding what we have to offer the world is still worthwhile and meant to be appreciated. Once that is set in stone, the imperfections are far less significant.

    Again, great post! I look forward to reading more.
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  2. Sing it, sister! I think that real change will take decades because it will only come with parents raising their daughters to fight against the false sense of beauty that you just described. Just think of the impact that you will make with your children/the younger generation! Use that motivation to share it with your brothers and cousins. It isn't just our girls that we need to inspire in the area of what is beautiful. The men in our lives have a powerful voice as well. It will take time, but so many feel the way that you do. You have been given a voice, and you're using it beautifully. Keep going, gorgeous! XOXO A. Steph

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